by Don Sizemore, LCSW David Benner in Surrender to Love says “the deepest ache of the soul is the spiritual longing for connection and belonging. No one was created for isolation.” He then says we attempt to compensate for our isolation through “people, possessions, and accomplishments.” That is, we attempt to soothe the pain of…
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A Comfortable Couple
“Come, let’s be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.” ~Charles Dickens
Read MoreWhose fault is it — mine or yours?
The ‘Hot Potato’ of Blame in Your Marriage Facts and Fallacies of Intimacy: Part 2 by Dr. Kevin Downing The word ‘fault’ belongs to the family of what we call ‘black and white’ language. ‘Fault’ is a cousin to ‘you always’ and ‘you never’. Rarely are ‘black and white’ statements true – especially when we…
Read MoreReal People
“People do not marry people, not real ones anyway; they marry what they think the person is; they marry illusions and images. “The exciting adventure of marriage is finding out who the partner really is.” ~James L. Framo
Read MoreThe Couple Checkup
by PREPARE/ENRICH The Couple Checkup is designed to help you and your partner build a more satisfying and intimate relationship. Just answering the questions will stimulate thoughts and attitudes about your relationship. It is designed to activate dialogue, discovery, and increase the overall quality of your relationship. Why take the Couple Checkup? The Couple Checkup…
Read MoreThe Scaffold of Relationship
by Don Sizemore, LCSW Preparing for a seminar on “How to Connect in the Middle of a Fight”, I have been considering a couple of movies that might have good examples of Attachment issues. I am looking for brief segments that capture the essence of the movement of our attachment dance. Sometimes it is much…
Read MoreA man without a wife …
“A man without a wife is like a vase without flowers.” ~African Proverb
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