by Anonymous Reviewer
Wow. This book is such an eye-opener! I just bought it yesterday and have almost done reading it. I’ve read lots of relationship books and most of them are a combination of psycho-babble and personal opinion. This book is completely different. It’s grounded on soundly-based scientific findings and the authors are constantly interlacing their conclusions and advice with experiments and research studies. They also bring a lot of real life examples that are very easy to relate to (a couple of examples are a bit repetitive, but they get the point across really well). The authors walk readers through understanding themselves and their “attachment style” and understanding their partner’s “attachment style” — which drives them, what their basic beliefs are and why they act like they do with you. This book has really shifted the way I think about my relationships and I’m going to use a lot of the tools here to make better decisions going forward. I also loved the part about how when your needs are met, you actually become less needy and more likely to excel in different areas of life. It’s just when your needs aren’t met that you act clingy. If you want to learn more about what is really going on in your relationship, this book is a must!