Many couples struggle with painful arguments that circle around a few key triggers and issues. Before they realize what’s happened to them, they develop a Negative Cycle of interactions. If this sounds like your relationship, the following items can help you identify and describe your own Negative Cycle when you’re not getting along: What I…
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Divorce Predictor
The following is from Smart Marriages: The number one predictor of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict. What’s sad is the reason that we avoid conflict is because we believe it (confilct) causes divorce. It’s like the cartoon where the couple explains to the marriage counselor, “We never talk anymore. We figured out that’s…
Read MoreThe Destructive Cycle of Negative Thinking
The following is from the Smalley Relationship Center: “Negative Thinking” (also called false or irrational beliefs, unrealistic expectations, self-defeating attitudes, unjustified negative explanations, or illogical conclusions) is powerful because how a partner perceives and interprets what the other does can be far more important in determining marital satisfaction than those actions themselves. Negative thinking occurs…
Read MoreRescue Your Marriage in 5 Hours
Rescue Your Marriage in 5 Hours: An Imago Guide for Christian Couples in Crisis An eBook by Dr. Janet Greenwood… “Learning and applying specific relationship skills in a concentrated and focused structure will begin to heal the rupture in your relationship and bring your marriage back to life. Imagine being able to heal and change…
Read MoreHold Me Tight
Heralded by the New York Times and Time Magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In Hold Me…
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Nicole had frequently complained that she and Sean were not as close as she would like them to be. She was constantly asking Sean for his input, but he seemed to withdraw even more. She was doing everything she could think of to show interest in him. However, without realizing what she was actually doing,…
Read MoreSean & Nicole
Sean was always a quiet guy, and that was one of the things about him that Nicole found irresistibly attractive. But after they’d been together for a while, she wanted more from him. Often during a silence, Nicole would ask him what he was thinking. He never gave her an answer. Then she began begging…
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