What are the danger signs that a marriage is in trouble? Why we fight: The good news about those four main reasons Blame Takes Us Away from Ourselves Listening is not the Same as Agreeing Listening is About the Other Person This best-selling relationship book from the popular author duo of Drs. Henry Cloud and…
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When We’re Not Getting Along
Many couples struggle with painful arguments that circle around a few key triggers and issues. Before they realize what’s happened to them, they develop a Negative Cycle of interactions. If this sounds like your relationship, the following items can help you identify and describe your own Negative Cycle when you’re not getting along: What I…
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“Sarah’s message is urgent but Tim doesn’t get it. He finds her “too emotional.” But that is the point. We are never more emotional than when our primary love relationship is threatened. Sarah desperately needs to reconnect with Tim. Tim is desperately afraid that he has lost that intimacy with Sarah — connection is vital…
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The following quote is from Hold Me Tight: “When marriages fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness, according to a landmark study by Ted Huston of the University of Texas. Indeed, the lack of emotional responsiveness rather than the level of conflict is the best…
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