by Don Sizemore, LCSW Preparing for a seminar on “How to Connect in the Middle of a Fight”, I have been considering a couple of movies that might have good examples of Attachment issues. I am looking for brief segments that capture the essence of the movement of our attachment dance. Sometimes it is much…
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Offering Compassion and Renewed Hope for Living the Abundant Life
Garden Grove, CA — Sometimes life is difficult, and you need a safe place to talk things through — a place where your faith is taken seriously. In response to this growing need, OC Christian Counseling has hired a new Psych Assistant, Daniel L. Pallesen, to provide counseling and psychological services for individuals and couples…
Read MoreThe Truth About Relationships
I’m amazed at the effectiveness of pop psychology. For years we’ve been told that people need to be complete in themselves (i.e., independent) before they can find a meaningful relationship. It reminds me of what my son said to me when he was a teenager looking for his first part-time job: Mom, they all want…
Read MorePractical, useful, and proven approach for couples
Dr. Sue Johnson really “gets” couples. That’s why we’ve adopted her approach to couple therapy at Orange County Christian Counseling. Although Hold Me Tight is not written from a Christian perspective, it’s principles are based on sound scientific research and applicable to us all. The insights Dr. Johson shares about intimate relationships have been extremely…
Read MoreWhen We’re Not Getting Along
Many couples struggle with painful arguments that circle around a few key triggers and issues. Before they realize what’s happened to them, they develop a Negative Cycle of interactions. If this sounds like your relationship, the following items can help you identify and describe your own Negative Cycle when you’re not getting along: What I…
Read MoreSarah & Tim
“Sarah’s message is urgent but Tim doesn’t get it. He finds her “too emotional.” But that is the point. We are never more emotional than when our primary love relationship is threatened. Sarah desperately needs to reconnect with Tim. Tim is desperately afraid that he has lost that intimacy with Sarah — connection is vital…
Read MoreWhy do marriages fail?
The following quote is from Hold Me Tight: “When marriages fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness, according to a landmark study by Ted Huston of the University of Texas. Indeed, the lack of emotional responsiveness rather than the level of conflict is the best…
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