What’s your coping style?
Category 1: Some people – extroverts, for sure, and many women – move toward others for moral and emotional support. They need to talk things through with another person and receive validation of their feelings and/or some input on problem-solving.
Category 2: However, others – introverts, for sure, and many men – turn inward to think things through before taking action. When they need or want someone else’s input, they will ask. And they will be careful about whom they ask and when.
If you’re in the first category and your partner is in the second, you make take his or her behavior as a sign of an unspoken problem with your relationship. Your anxiety may increase . . . as well as the frequency of your attempts to find out “what’s wrong,” resulting in a negative cycle of couple interactions and causing problems where there may have been none to begin with.
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