by Carol Van Atta
- Are your friends continually pointing out your relationship failures?
- Do you hear the word co-dependency and cringe?
- Are you excusing and tolerating behaviors that are unacceptable and hurtful?
- Have you compromised your values, purity, and love of God for a lie?
Do these statements reflect how you feel, or what you do? If so, you may be one of the many women, who are “addicted to love” and relationships. I certainly was. I had spent my entire life on a quest to find love and approval from boys, and later men. I would experience extreme “highs” if all was going well in my relationships, and would then plummet to the depths of despair if I didn’t receive the nightly phone call or if my partner disappointed me.
My life revolved around looking a certain way, acting in a certain manner, and compromising myself, and my values – all in the name of love. I put myself in highly destructive situations. Now, years later, as a ministry leader in a woman’s healing ministry, dedicated to helping women break free from the chains of relationship and love addiction, I can see how insidious and how prevalent these issues are amongst Christian women, both single and married.
God offers us perfect love and freedom through His Son, but learning to transfer our heart’s longing to the true source of contentment is challenging and takes time.
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